By Myron Abernathy
Even if you're a guy and you can not stand chick flicks, you've undoubtedly Heard of the infamous movement"Signs" for Them Starting a relationship. Alex Begins to rant about reading too deep Constantly Women Into Everything a guy does and twisting words and actions Into Something That Is not There. DURING this rant, I tells Gigi That "If a guy Wants to date you, I will make it happen! I will ask you out. "Had Previously Said Alex Many Other Things to Gigi similar, albeit with a less harsh delivery.
Ok, by now you're MOST likely wondering: "What the heck does this Have to do with salsa?" Just like Every guy has felt the Same Way That Alex felt at Some Point in His Life, so Have I . However, I've felt this way Also while dancing. Countless times Have Been There When I Attempt to move That goes awry. Being the good That I leadam (or so I'm told), my normal reaction is to take Responsibility for it and start with myself. I think to myself, "Ok, What did I do to make That Go Wrong? How can I lead That so That She gets it next time? "Of course, There Are Other times Where the lady I'm dancing with does Something That Does not Even Come Close to What I think (operative word) I lead. It DURING Those Moments That is my mind switches to Alex-mode and I'm thinking "What made you think I WAS telling you to do that?!?! What made you think I wanted you to turn? Did I tell you to go That Way? I Was not Even Trying to get you to do anything just now! "
It hit me or with, the lead, to make it crystal-clear to you what is going on. If you don't feel lead to do something, if you are unsure, if there is any doubt, if there is any thought process involved with your next action, that means that either he is not leading it correctly, or he is not leading you to do anything at all. As I said earlier, the dance is built for you to do very little thinking, if any at all. Your job is to react. The moment you start thinking about it is usually the moment things start to fall apart.
If you follow this way, this forces the leads to lead clearly and deliberately. This will make them "step their game up", so to speak. Or at least the good ones, anyway. The good leads will do what I spoke of earlier and start with themselves to make sure the botched move That wasn't due to Their Own Lack of technique. The bad leads, pero, MOST likely will blame you for Not Knowing What You Were supposed to do and Not Even Consider The Possibility That It Could Be Their fault. As Difficult as it May be, just ignore cocky Their Attitudes and allow it to make you grateful for the good leads Out There.
So ladies, as you dance Any type of partner dance, let your brain relax for 3-5 minutes and let the guy lead you. Take a break from Analyzing Everything and just go with the flow. Guys, do not be afraid to watch a chick flick or two. You'll be surprised ;-) What you'd learn
About the Author
elpdesk Myron Abernathy is a freelance analyst and salsa instructor